Mastering everyday stress: How to recognize and deal with stressful situations in the moment

It's often the smallest moments that have the most significant impact.

We love it when someone notices our new hoodie, makes extra coffee in the office, or tells us we have great hair today. And as happy as we feel about these good moments, the bad ones make us feel equally stressed.

Misplaced keys, an avalanche of phone notifications, or a looming deadline can leave us feeling drained and overwhelmed.

Like a series of tiny happy moments that can make us feel good all day, tiny stressful situations also have a cumulative effect, gradually chipping away at our resilience and making us more susceptible to stress-related issues.

By identifying and understanding these daily tensions, we can train ourselves to take proactive steps toward a calmer and more balanced existence.

Find out how you can identify your daily stressful situations and navigate the ups and downs of everyday stressors with ease.

Recognizing signs of mini-stress is the first step toward eliminating it from your life. Feeling irritated, annoyed, frustrated, or agitated are all good indicators that you are trying to cope with a stressful situation.

The best way to recognize your own small stresses is to take a closer look at your daily routines. Identify situations that always seem to make you feel agitated or trigger a stressed response from you.

Here are a few examples of daily stressful situations we usually deal with. They are so common they sometimes even fly under our conscious radar but they affect us nonetheless: searching for your keys or phone every time you’re about to leave home, rushing through your morning routine, and seeing constant work-related notifications on your phone.

Neglecting these stress-inducing situations in your life will only make them more stressful in the long run and hinder your ability to manage stress efficiently. Take the time to identify and understand them, so you can develop strategies to reduce their effects on your well-being.

Organize your space

Start with the basics. Declutter your living and working spaces and designate specific spots for your personal belongings. The latter will kill two birds with one stone; you’ll be keeping your home tidy and will always know where to find your things.

Next, organize the tasks in your head with some preplanning. A little preparation will allow you to better focus on any challenges the day may present and help reduce decision fatigue.

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Create an evening mini-routine: Take 10 minutes in the evening and think about your activities the next day. Prep everything you’ll need for them, plan when and where you’ll eat, and pick what you’d like to wear.

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Keeping yourself organized inside your home is easier than doing it outside. Get a few item finders for the items you take with you every day. Instead of wondering which pocket you last put them in, you can simply make them ring or check their last known location on a map in the phone app.

Disconnect from technology

Technology is a wonderful tool that helps us become more efficient, but it also makes us reachable 24/7. Establish regular breaks from all your screens to prevent digital overload and set specific times for work-related email and notification checks. In short, don’t hesitate to disconnect when you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed out.

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Employ your phone’s system settings or find apps for notification scheduling to set up when your phone should shut down all non-essential notifications.

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Consider a ‘no phones at the table’ rule to relax and catch up with your loved ones or unplug for an afternoon once a week to enjoy strictly offline activities.

Be kind to yourself

Don’t beat yourself up when things don’t go as planned. Instead, treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d treat another person in your situation.

Accept that you don't have to be your best self all the time. Compassion and kindness for yourself can make a world of difference.

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Improve how you talk to yourself. Don’t criticize yourself or put yourself down in stressful situations. Instead talk to yourself like you would to someone you love. And while you’re at it, stop comparing yourself to others too.

In short, get out of your own head.

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Incorporate activities that preserve your peace of mind into your everyday. Enjoy a quick stretch, a hot bath, a short walk or get a new book.

Stop for a moment

When you find yourself in a situation that stresses you out, take a moment to focus on what your body is feeling. Is your jaw locked, your shoulders tense, your head throbbing?

Take a few deep breaths or stretch out to let go of the tension you are feeling. These short pauses only take a few moments, but can substantially diminish stress levels and help you better deal with the situation at hand.

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Start your day with a small pleasure like a cup of specialty coffee, a 3-minute basic stretch exercise or your favorite song to set a positive tone for yourself.

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Put your phone down when you eat. Pay attention to the textures, flavors and colors on your plate and turn your meal from a chore into something you enjoy. Apply the same approach when you’re walking around and pay attention to the rhythm of your steps or the sights and sounds that surround you.

Your end goal should not be adapting yourself to endure more stress, but to eliminate it where possible. You can do this by implementing life hacks or building small organizational habits.

An effective way to immediately deal with micro-stressors is to decompress when they arise. Take a moment to ground yourself or talk to someone you trust about what's bothering you. By stepping back from the situation, you can analyze the underlying causes of your stress and take the necessary steps to minimize them.

By implementing small life hacks and making incremental changes, you can proactively eliminate stressors from your life. Remember, even the smallest adjustments can contribute to your overall peace of mind.